I enjoy Jimmy Fallon’s Friday Thank You Notes on the Tonight Show. I’d like to offer some of my own.
0-means nobody stepped up. Other digits reflect on how many. $ means I paid money.
++++ means extra thanks.
To my friend and Lyft driver, +++++ You were to take me to my first dr. visit after the hospital, but got a gig to drive to DIA. That’s how it works. I started driving again because of that. You also did some chores for me. $ ++++
To the friends that kept Ivy at their home for 10 days. $$$$++++
To the cards I got. 3
To the visitors who came to the hospital. 1 plus my Rabbi and his baby.
To the visitors who came to the house. 0
For the flowers I received. 0
For the stuffed frog and chicken soup. 9, but really 2. J & E They added in the relatives in CA and AZ, but it was from them. Same as when Earl died.
To the woman who walks Ivy every day, Rover.com-wonderful. $ ++++
To the man who fed the cats and changed the litter. ++++
To the mother and son who filled my fridge. 0 ++++
To my new next door neighbors who went to Safeway and Trader Joe’s (comfort food). $++++
To people who called and checked up on me. 3
To Dr. Kindsfater, joint replacement specialist, who really had my back during the pre-op time. You told me what should be done. You called, and visited. When Doogie came to tell me he was going to replace my hip, first I’d heard of that. I became a snarling, shrieking maniac in pre-op. Dr. K stepped in on his cell and told Doogie what to do, saying if the screws failed, he would replace the hip. BTW, hip replacements are not a big deal not in technique but in fact, you just have to follow the hip rules. I asked Dr. K to please take over management of my case because we have a 12-year history, and he said yes. He sent his PAs over every morning. When Doogie’s PA showed up the day after surgery, I kicked her smarmy ass out of the room.
That’s enough. I was talking to my friend, Linda, of sixty years, and she read me the riot act about the above. She said just because I step up to help, that doesn’t mean others will reciprocate. She is right, but I’m still stewing about it. Gotta put my big girl pants on and do what Earl always said, “Get it done and move on.” Am I still going to help others, you bet. People at their worst need help, even if it is just sitting quietly with them.